Friday, March 27, 2009

The End of an Era

It is a sad day. Well, it was a sad day a few days ago. I was sitting on my couch with this very laptop watching Fox News on TV. I had caught it at the very beginning of the program when they are running through the big stories that they will cover this hour. That is when I heard it, "after 31 years, the South Side Irish Parade is no more." My jaw dropped to the floor. I mean come on, I had just written a post about how the activities of that day made me feel better about everything going on right now. And now they want to take that away from me? Haven't we as a people suffered enough to help the banks and the auto industry keep their heads above water? Haven't we been punished enough by the highest sales tax in the Country? What about the fact that we have to just sit by and watch as every one of our politicians is found to be corrupt and fight till the very end while wasting the state's money? Or maybe the fact that the city is slowly leasing away pieces of itself to the extent that in 20 years, the city probably won't run any of the city?

Apparently this wasn't enough. Now the South Side Irish Parade is done. For those of you that have been to the parade before, you know how much fun it can be. Granted your in an area that cabs don't travel to and there is very little public transit to get you back when your tanked, its a good time if you plan it right. There are tons of people that come down to see the actual parade. They stand by the road and watch with their kids as the bagpipers and the floats go by. The kids smile and laugh as the leprechauns walk by and a Dalmatian sits on the fire truck. Parents take pictures of their kids enjoying the parade and shots of the crowds to give the future photo album some idea of the days events.

Earlier that morning, the Metra train stopped at 107th Street station. And their we were. The hundreds of thousands of drinkers that were coming down to support the South Side Irish Parade and the bars that surround it. We step off the train in slow motion, almost a montage of a clown car style exit. Crowds exiting the train all sporting green t-shirts, beads, hats, kilts, and everything else you can imagine. We make our way to Western Ave and start picking out where we will drink for the day. Many stop to get something to eat at a local restaurant or at least the closest Dunkin Donuts. The sidewalks are alive with sober and drunken activity. There are street vendors selling t-shirts and hats, parents are walking the route to figure out the best place to watch the parade pass, whole groups of friends stumble down the sidewalk towards their favorite bar, and other drinkers wait patiently in line for bars and entertain themselves by telling drinking stories from St Patrick's Day past.

They say that the attendance of the South Side Parade has gone from a small neighborhood celebration to a huge party of 300,000 people. Which is understandable if you have ever walked the sidewalks during the parade. This is a main reason that the Parade has been suspended indefinitely. The Parade and its audience have outgrown the neighborhood that tries to contain it. It is a sad fact that so many people enjoyed this event and that is the reason of its demise.

But none-the-less it is done. I have to say that I am torn. I am very sad that the South Side Irish Parade is gone. As a transplant from Michigan, this was one of the first Chicago events that I ever attended once I moved here. It was a great event for me. The first time that I got to go out with friends and enjoy something that is exclusively Chicago. It was great. The Committee that plans the parade has come out to say that they will be coming up with a more neighborhood style "alternative" set of events to replace the parade. But I will not attend these events. I want to remember the South Side Irish Parade the way it was.

Its over. Its done. I am just happy that I have been able to enjoy this landmark event for the last three years. It has been a pleasure and I want to thank all the members of the South Side Irish St Patrick's Day Parade Committee for all of their hard work over the years. It is especially sad for me though that this event is no more. As I mentioned in the opening paragraph, this is a very tough time for a lot of people. There are very few escapes for people to enjoy before they head home to their pile of bills and news stories that seem to take away all hope for the future. Its scary in today's world that the people have a hand in their pocket at all times to help struggling companies that are arguably to blame for their own problems and at the same time be stripped of the things that are family/friend traditions that help bring people together and just pain have some fun.

Thank you South Side Irish Parade for the memories and liver damage. You will not be forgotten.

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Its the Little Successes

For those of you who know me, you know that I have been going through some tough times as of late. But I have always been a big believer in looking for those small successes in life to make it through. And I was thankful for a St Patty's Day success that made up just a little bit for all of that shit that has been happening lately.

As many other people my age in Chicago do around St Patty's Day do, we rounded up a group and went to the Southside Parade. There are many people that will not attempt this great feat. There are usually around 300,000 people that go to the Southside Parade and there are very limited ways to get back to the Northside from so far in the Southside. But we finally planned ahead and reserved a limo bus to bring us back. So with this planning, we had all morning to just have fun and not worry about the rest of the day.

We got down early and got in line for a bar called Dingers. Dingers isn't necessarily the most Irish of bars on the Southside, but we had been there before and it has always proved to be a good time. Once finally in the bar, we grabbed a table and got it going. They don't do normal pitchers in this place. They do these weird buckets of beer that prove to be very stackable. In usual fashion, another group saw that we had the will, drive and tolerance to drink the place out of beer. So they decided to issue a challenge. Build a pyramid of buckets to the ceiling, 12 buckets wide on the bottom row, and win Blackhawk tickets from the Budweiser guy on site. We of course accepted this challenge. I had some of my buddies in from out of town and they can drink more beer then I have ever seen a human being ingest.

So the buckets started building to the ceiling. There was about 4 beers in every bucket and, if you want to do the math, it takes 78 buckets so build to a peak. So slowly but surely we built. We drank and we drank. And then we drank, oh yeah and we drank some more. And then we used the bathroom so we could drink some more. One by one the buckets went up, and surprisingly the other team was keeping up. Lets paint the picture of this scene. Not one beer gets below half empty, so no one really knows the quantity of beer they are taking in. The tables around us are watching in awe every time we cheer as a bucket goes on the pyramid. And lets not forget those assholes in the crowd that just want to be dicks. These idiots would throw shit at the beer pyramid or just plain be the drunk douche bags that they were born to be.

We were at least half way through our beer pyramid, and a young lady came over looking for some beads. She walked over to a buddy of mine and started to show a little skin in the effort to earn said beads. Then this nasty looking, horrid wreck of a women threw a hand up and knocked over our entire beer pyramid. I had been drinking, so I was not pleased and many of us had choice words for this saboteur. And then she walked her tank ass back over to the other groups table. This waste of life was sent over because the other table couldn't handle getting out drank. There were beer buckets everywhere. Our morale was low and our blood alcohol content was high. But there was no way we were going to let these assholes show us up in a drinking competition. So we decided that we needed to rebuild. I really wish that we could have had someone there to videotape the rebuilding. Then I could cut up the tape and make it into a great montage. Most likely with a Dropkick Murphys song in the background.

The Wall-O-Beer was back up. And our livers were determined to beat these cheating D-Bags. We made sure that no one made it close to the pyramid. Unless we knew them, they were not trusted. We drank and a bucket goes up. And then another and another. Then we only needed one more bucket and we took the race. So we cheersed our beers, finished them, refilled and placed that last glorious bucket on top. Victory was ours.

We took a ton of pictures and met with Budweiser guy. The other table sent over the one nice guy from there team and he congratulated us. It was a glorious scene. We were proud of what we had accomplished and suddenly things didn't seem as bad as they did earlier. It was a success and we enjoyed every second of it.

But the experience had to come to an end. We needed to make our way over to the location to meet the limo. What to do with this glorious beer bucket pyramid? Should we leave it in honor of our victory? Should we allow others to take pictures with it and enjoy our success? The answer to NO. This is ours and when we leave, it leaves with us. It was an overwhelming feeling. Kind of like the scene in Fight Club when Ed Norton talks about how he wanted to destroy something beautiful.

We rounded up our people and our stuff. Everyone started heading out of the bar. I thanked the people around us and wished them all a great St Patty's Day. And with only my best beer drinkers by my side, I knocked down the entire pyramid. One swipe across the bottom of the pyramid and all 78 buckets went flying into the air and onto the floor. I gave the remnants of the beer pyramid a moment of silence. I bowed my head and thanked King Gambrinus, the Patron Saint of Beer, for such a great day. Then I walked to the other table that we had been competing with. I shook their nicer guys hands and said that we would be back next year to defend our title. Then I swiped at their pyramid and knocked the whole thing down. It was great. I know what your thinking, what a dick move that was. Why would you bother to do something like that? You had already won. And that's exactly why I didn't do it. Some of my buddies and I had contemplated doing it. But we are better then that. We showed what we had through our livers and not by trying to cheat.

I shook his hand, told him I would see him next year, looked the sabotage girl in the face and called her a bitch and walked out into the crowds.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Writing Under The Influence

First off I would like to thank the creator of spell check. Its not that I wouldn't be able to write this post without it. Its just that it made it possible for me not to look like an uneducated idiot. I also should mention that I have had a few of beers and quite a bit of tequila, whiskey and John Daniels. So needless to say I am three sheets to the wind. I don't actually like that analogy. I am feeling no pain. Another loss of intelligible wit. How about just plain being honest? I am a little bit drunk.

But lets get to the meaning of this post in the first place. I am writing this because I have been a complete ass and have not been updating this thing as I had previously stated that I would. So once again, I am going to update everyone on my current life and mental state. I am actually doing alright I guess. I am currently looking for a new job and have some things on the burner that may come together soon. I am ready to start something fresh and new.

The only major thing in my life that is currently bugging me is that I am at my wits end with stupid drunk short guys that feel the need to express their Napoleon syndrome in my direction. I have to say that I am not the worlds smallest man. I am not huge by any means, but I am not small. So for some reason, these ridiculous douche bags that you find at every Chicago bar think it is appropriate to get in my face for no reason to prove their manhood. I have been very good about taking a deep breathe and counting to ten. I have not flipped out and done something that could put my ass in jail. But I am close to being willing to take that place in a cell. I am done with douche bags that feel the need to still be that frat guy that you see with the popped collar ordering nothing but jager bombs for his friends and trying to slip a rufee into the nearest girls drink.

A couple weeks ago, it was a guy at a Michigan vs Michigan State football party. Sorry to spoil it for you, but Michigan lost, and I was quite happy about it. Next thing I know, my brother is outside having some words with some guy because hs was talking shit about me when I wasn't even around. Yeah, that makes sense. Don't come up and say something to my face. I can't imagine talking shit to a bunch of people you don't know just to realize that you are talking shit about a guy that everyone at the party has known for years. This is not a good idea. I think that is pretty self explanatory. So I get pulled a way from a beer pong game to this 5 foot 2 douche that has been talking shit. Because he wants to apologize. Then as now, I had a few drinks in me. he rambled on as a couple of his friends tried to talk me down. But my mind kept telling me, don't do it. Do not hit this guy. You are at your brothers house and that's the last place that you want to start shit. And to be honest withing being cocky about it. He was a little guy with about three friends with him. I on the other hand am not small, as previously mentioned, and had probably about 12 guys that had my back. So I told him that he needed to watch his mouth when he was around people he didn't know and that if he was any kind of man that he would talk shit to somebodys face instead of behind their back. That's a typical U of M fan for you.

The next incident, Or Strike 2 as I will refer to it, needs to have a disclaimer attached to it. I in no way, shape, or form have a problem with people who are different then me. In this case, this person just so happened to be a "little person". I think that is the politically correct way of saying it. I was sitting at a table at the bar with some friends. And the "little person" was quite cocky and came up to the table and started talking to the girls at our table while leaning on me. He started making comments about how they needed to hang out with him and his friends because they were more physically fit, as he started to rub my stomach. This is one of those situations that I took a deep breathe and counted. I got myself to calm down and he walked back to his group. he did return that night one more time and talked just as much shit. But I was torn. I really wanted to just swing and end the whole thing there. But that could have been larger complications then I originally thought. I am serious that he was only like two and a half feet tall. I couldn't do it. Upon further thought after the incident I decided I definitely should have stood out and cracked one of his friends square in the jaw and pointed at him letting him know that it was his fault. Now that would have been great.

So as you read these stories, please feel free to look back through the other shit that has happened in the last year. I seem to attract crazy people and idiots. Kind of like tonight when we were all at dinner at some Thai place and a homeless guy walked right up to our table when we got our food and started asking us for money. I have to say that I am not totally against helping a homeless guy out. But that's definitely not the way to convince me. So I called him down to my end of the table, gave him a smoke and let him know it was time to go. Just before the manager came over and asked him to leave. I attract stupid shit. So this is my main message, I am down with stupid people. There are currently two strikes in the last month and I honestly don't know if I am going to restrain myself for that third strike. I am going to be ready to live up to the consequences. I may get my ass kicked, I may spend the night in the drunk tank. But I will have a wide ass smile across my face the whole time. I will finally be able to let all of that shit out.

I know I have said it before, but I am going to try and write more. I sincerely miss just being able to put this stuff out here. And if anyone has any anger management advice or places that I should stay away from so I don't run into a pack of frat guys with complexes, let me know.

Cheers

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Further Explanation Needed

Andy Kaufman was a genius. There is potential that I could say, Andy Kaufman is a genius. There are many people out there like myself that still think there is a chance that Andy Kaufman is still alive. He wasn't you normal comedian. He didn't just want to get a laugh out of people. He wanted to get a reaction. It didn't matter if it was a good reaction or a hostile reaction.

The last couple of weeks I have been obsessed with reading about Kaufman and the characters that he played. Twice last week, I went to see Tony Clifton play the Chopin Theatre in Chicago. I have to say that it was everything that I could have hoped for. I can remember seeing Andy on TV for years. Whether it was a re-run of something he did on Saturday Night Live or a special about his life. Tony Clifton wasn't someone I knew before he co-starred in "Man on the Moon", the movie about the life of Andy Kaufman. Tony Clifton was by far, the best live show I have ever seen. And the two shows were very different.

The last post was kind of a play on Kaufman's Great Gatsby bit. On some occasions, audiences would show up to one of Kaufman's stage performances expecting to see him perform as Latka from Taxi, and heckling him with demands when he did not. Kaufman would punish these audiences with the announcement that he was going to read The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald to them. The audience would laugh at this, not realizing that he was serious and would proceed to read the book to them, continuing despite audience members' departure. At a certain point, he would ask the audience if they wanted him to keep reading, or play a record. When the audience chose to hear the record, the record he cued up was a recording of him continuing to read The Great Gatsby from where he had left off.

Tony Clifton did a great showing while singing Gordon Lightfoot's "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald" with full video clips, pictures and the actual recordings of the radio transmissions. For some reason, it really stuck in my head. So I decided to make a little experiment of my own.

I wrote that post about the Edmond Fitzgerald and its tie to the current economy first off, because I thought it was funny that those were the two other ships' names. And secondly because I wanted to see if I could get a reaction out of readers. There aren't any comments posted, but I received emails telling me that they couldn't even make it through the post without wondering why I was rambling. In one instance, a co-worker turned to me an hour after I wrote it (during my lunch break) and asked if she had to keep reading. To me, it was a small success.

If you have never heard of Andy Kaufman or Tony Clifton, please rent "Man on the Moon". It will change the way you look at comedy. Its not just about getting you to laugh out loud. The real question is, who was it that was performing as Tony Clifton? Is he real? Was it Bob Zmuda? Or was it actually Andy Kaufman coming back to enjoy his work after a 25 year long practical joke? Who really knows?

But in the words of Tony Clifton:

"Don't know nothin' about no Andy. Just some dead guy tryin' to ride my coattails.
Let's HIT IT, boys! One, two, anda one two three four!"

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

We Are Holding Our Own

Currently the US economy is not in the greatest that it has ever been. I will not go as far as a lot of other people have and use the "R" word, because it is simply not true. Is there a potential for it to happen, yes? But just remember that last quarter, the economy as a whole still had a growth. It is a very very small amount of growth, but growth none the less. There have been hundreds of books and articles written about the economy. Hundreds of thousands of hours of TV dedicated to breaking each little point down. Analysts and politicians and everyday people have been interviewed over and over and over again. But it seems that everyone is dodging the real reason why the economy is in a little bit of a downturn. Well, I for one am not going to just sit back and not talk about it. I am not afraid of the backlash or the damage to my reputation that this may bring. I am ready to face the consequences. So here we go. The reason for the current economic downturn is that the spirits that still haunt The Great Lakes from the mysterious and tragic sinking of the SS Edmund Fitzgerald are wreaking havoc on those that were not there in time to save them..........You look confused.

Lets roll back tape then for a history lesson. Its kind of like when you were in grade school and you would watch an educational documentary. The teacher would turn the lights off and you would all sit there with the reel to reel going watching some blotchy movie while trying not to fall asleep or stare at the girl next to you too much. So hit the lights. This is what that cheesy documentary would sound like if it was written by the same people who wrote about it on Wikipedia.

On February 1, 1957, Northwestern Mutual Life Insurance Company of Milwaukee, Wisconsin contracted Great Lakes Engineering Works (GLEW), of River Rouge, Michigan, to design and build an ore bulk carrier lake freighter for Northwestern. The contract contained the stipulation that the boat be the largest on the Great Lakes. GLEW laid the keel on August 7 of that year, and some time between then and her christening and launch on June 8, 1958, Northwestern announced their decision to name the boat for their President and Chairman of the Board, Edmund Fitzgerald, whose own father had himself been a lake captain. For the next 17 years, the Fitzgerald carried taconite from mines near Duluth, Minnesota to iron works in Detroit, Toledo and other ports. Prior to the events of November 9, 1975, she suffered five collisions, running aground in 1969, colliding with the S.S. Hochelaga in 1970 and then striking the wall of a lock later in the same year, hitting a lock's wall again in 1973, and then again the following year. She also lost her original bow anchor in the Detroit River in 1974.

Fitzgerald left Superior Wisconsin on the afternoon of Sunday, November 9, 1975 under Captain Ernest M. McSorley. She was en route to the steel mill on Zug Island, near Detroit, Michigan, with a full cargo of taconite. A second freighter, Arthur M. Anderson, destined for Gary, Indiana out of Two Harbors, Minnesota, joined up with Fitzgerald. Fitzgerald, being the faster ship, took the lead while Anderson trailed not far behind.

Crossing Lake Superior at about 13 knots the boats encountered a massive winter storm, reporting winds in excess of 50 knots and waves as high as 35 feet. Because of the storm, the Soo Locks at Sault Ste. Marie were closed. The freighters altered their courses northward, seeking shelter along the Canadian coast. Later, they would cross to Whitefish Bay to approach the locks.

Late in the afternoon of Monday, November 10, sustained winds of 50 knots were observed across eastern Lake Superior. Anderson was struck by a 75-knot hurricane force gust. At 3:30 PM Fitzgerald radioed Anderson to report a minor list developing and top-side damage including the loss of radar. Visibility was poor due to heavy snow, and the Coast Guard warned all ships to find safe harbor. Fitzgerald's two bilge pumps were running continuously to discharge shipped water. The lighthouse and navigational radio beacon at Whitefish Point had also been knocked out by the storm. Fitzgerald was ahead of Anderson at the time, effectively blind, therefore, she slowed to come within 10 miles range so she could receive radar guidance from the other ship.

For a time Anderson directed the Fitzgerald toward the relative safety of Whitefish Bay. At 5:45PM, Captain McSorley radioed another ship, Avafors, to report that Fitzgerald was suffering a bad list, had lost her radars, and had seas washing over her decks. McSorley described the situation as, "One of the worst seas I've ever been in."

The last communication from the doomed ship came at approximately 7:10 PM, when Anderson notified Fitzgerald of being hit by rogue waves large enough to be caught on radar, that were heading Fitzgerald's way, and asked how she was doing. McSorley reported, "We are holding our own." A few minutes later, she apparently sank; no distress signal was received. Ten minutes later Anderson could neither raise Fitzgerald by radio, nor detect her on radar. At 8:32 PM, Anderson informed the U.S. Coast Guard of its concern for the ship.

Once Anderson noted the loss of Fitzgerald, a search was launched for survivors. The initial search consisted of the Arthur M. Anderson, and a second freighter, SS William Clay Ford. The efforts of a third freighter, the Canadian vessel Hilda Marjanne, were foiled by the weather. The U.S. Coast Guard launched three aircraft, but could not mobilize any ships. A Coast Guard buoy tender, Woodrush, was able to launch within two and a half hours, but took a day to arrive. The search recovered debris, including lifeboats and rafts, but no survivors.

See, it makes sense now right? Probably not, but lets give it a try. As it was told to me, the two ships that went looking for survivors had held back for a while waiting for the weather to continue to break. They sat back waiting knowing that their cohorts, friends and fellow crew members could be in trouble or in dire need of their help. When they finally arrived they found no survivors. Could they have found survivors if they would have gotten there earlier? It is quite possible but we will never know. So my theory is that the spiritual presence of the tragic loss that day is wreaking havoc on the US economy to get its revenge. Not necessarily the economy as a whole, but key pieces of it.

Look at the names of the ships that hesitated and then finally went to their rescue, the SS Arthur M. Andersen and the SS William Clay Ford. Arthur Andersen LLP, based in Chicago, was once one of the "Big Five" accounting firms among PricewaterhouseCoopers, Deloitte Touche, Ernst & Young and KPMG, providing auditing, tax, and consulting services to large corporations. In 2002, the firm voluntarily surrendered its licenses to practice as Certified Public Accountants in the United States after being found guilty of criminal charges relating to the firm's handling of the auditing of Enron, the energy corporation, resulting in the loss of 85,000 jobs. Although the verdict was subsequently overturned by the Supreme Court of the United States, it has not returned as a viable business. This also brought about devastating ramifications on other large once respected companies and the SOX Compliance Act of 2001. And as a former resident of Michigan I can not even bear to tell the tales of Ford and Detroit.

But it is ironic that the Edmund Fitzgerald was heading to Zug Island in Detroit, take a look in the news and see how Zug Island is holding up. I am sure you don't even need to look up how Detroit is doing in the paper. Plus you can save the money you would have used to buy the paper and buy a house in Detroit instead as one was just sold for $1. The other sense of irony is that the Anderson was heading to Gary, Indiana. And anyone that has driven to Chicago from Michigan before can tell you that you know when you are getting close because you can smell Gary, Indiana on your way in. Oh yeah, and don't forget that they rank Detroit as the most dangerous city in the country and Gary Indiana comes in at number 17.

If you ask me, they shouldn't have hesitated. Not just because of the above mentioned consequences, but because they should have had a sense of comradery. They should have gone after their friends. I never realized the depth of this story until someone I had never even met until a few nights ago brought it to my attention. That person was none other then Tony Clifton, legendary singer that has sold more albums then the Beatles and Elvis combined. But that's a story for another post.

Monday, August 18, 2008

Red Pill or the Blue Pill?

Its kind of strange to look back through your life when a life changing event happens in the life of someone from your past. Someone that was very close to you but has since been removed from your life either voluntarily or involuntarily. How did it come about? What were the chain of events that led to that happening? Somewhere down the line of fate, was I involved? These are questions that can never be answered. To me that is a shame. I have always said that I would rather know something then not know. I would rather know if one of my friends stabbed me in the back or if a co-worker is spreading a rumor. I want to know if a girl I am interested in does not feel the same way or if a potential job thinks I'm an idiot. But some questions can never to be answered. You can not go back in time and find these answers. And you can especially not ask someone else to go back and find these answers for you.

You may already be asking, where I am going to take this one? Well follow me down the wormhole and we will see just how far it goes. Sorry for the really lame Matrix quote but the title will make since despite my cheesy attempt to make a movie reference. So let me start to explain. Within the last few weeks an long term ex-girlfriend of mine got married. I am going to come out and say that I have not been crying myself to sleep or letting it dwell on my thoughts for days. It is simply something that has made me think back in time and recollect on how things were and how they would have been if I made different choices.

So lets go back in history and I'll que you in to how things used to be in your ole friend The Hitman's life. There I was just a ray of sunshine in high school. Yes, I was the kid sitting at the front of the class with my notes and homework ready every day and would always raise my hand for questions. I am glad that you can't see my face because I couldn't keep a straight face while even typing that. I was the kid in the back of the class that was asleep everyday except for test days and when projects were due. I was the kid walking through the halls half asleep with a big red spot of my forehead from having my head down on my arm for the last hour. I did good in school but didn't really care too much. I didn't care about school and I didn't care much for my job either. But then I met her and I finally cared. She worked with me at one of those large chain retail stores. We were friends for about a year and a half and then we started dating. We dated for about three and a half years before things went sour and that was that. I do not feel the need to get into all the gritty details of how things went sour and how I knew for a while that it would happen. But it did and I have to say that I learned a lot from the whole experience. I also learned a lot about booze during that time. I will admit that I was pretty screwed up after the whole thing.

So know that we have the back up story, we can get to the real reason that I am writing. I am writing because her now husband was the guy that she left me for. So is that like losing to the team that wins the whole tournament? That's supposed to be better right? Either way, it was for the best and I wish them both the best. But thinking back.......What if I would have been ready to tackle the marriage situation? Because back then, I was not. I wasn't ready to think about it and she was. But when I found out that they had finally gotten married, I thought back about that. What if I would have given in? I would still be living in Michigan and would have had to change my plans to make sure that everything fit everything she wanted to do. I would have stayed in Michigan is probably the weirdest part. Moving to Chicago was the best thing I have ever done. It was the right thing to do and I have gained so much more then I could have in Michigan.

Could I see myself living in Michigan with a wife? Absolutely not. Could I imagine having dinner at the in-laws every Sunday after going to church with the whole family? Absolutely not. Could I imagine buying a house and starting a family at 25? Absolutely not. I give anyone credit for being able to actually pull this off, but give yourself some time and years under your belt before you start to pat yourself on the back. Its going to be a bumpy road.

So looking back, there was a decision in front of me, take the red pill and do everything I can to stay with her and end up where she and her husband are now? Or take the blue pill, live some great years single and drunk with my friends in Michigan and then move to Chicago? I took the blue pill and I couldn't be happier about it.

I know that this post is going to spark some other debates. The question is going to come up. Actually I was asked it today at lunch when I was eating with some co-workers. Do you want to start seriously dating someone here in Chicago? Because lets be honest, especially if you know me, I have been having a great time here on the weekends getting drunk and hanging out with friends. And during the week I have been focusing on my job and trying to get a couple side projects off the ground. But I can honestly say, yes, I am finally in a place out here that I would be open to seriously dating someone. So put the word out.

Just one last piece of advice at the end of a very long post. Relationships should be a big part of your life, but they shouldn't be your whole life. Once you start to lose yourself in it, it becomes more harmful then helpful.

Friday, August 1, 2008

Turn the Page

I am not going to make a long post explaining my absence of new posts or groveling at the feet of the blogosphere to let me once again return to my position as a writer. But I would like to briefly explain my disappearing act.

There are many things in my life that I feel that I can not write about on this blog. Its the curse of not holding true anonymity. There are people that read this blog that know my personal life. People that know my writing, my occupation, my friends and where I live. Therefore, I have chosen to not write about the things that have been affecting me for some time. But I am not going to hold back any longer. Things have taken a turn for the better and I am going to run with it.

There may be some posts following this that delve into those topics a little. But much like many books with titles like "Confessions of a Wall Street Analyst", "Confessions of a Street Addict" or "Ivy Brief: True Tales of a Neurotic Law School Student", many names will be changed or removed and the concepts within will be shaped and shifted differently. I think it is important to go back and say the overlying principles of things that have been affecting me. But I will protect those that have attacked me in some way. Especially if you are one of those people, you will read this blog and you will know that I will not take shit anymore.

And for those of you who are wondering how in the hell the title of this blog even relates to the subject matter, please refer to Bob Seger's "Turn the Page", a true classic.

Monday, April 7, 2008

Moving On Up

It seems like only yesterday that the moving truck pulled up into my driveway back in Michigan to start my journey of moving to Chicago. Now I have lived here for a year and three months and I am very happy with the decision that I made to move here. Chicago is a great city and I think I have adapted to the way of life here pretty well.

But the last week has been quite hectic. I have been homeless since a week ago Sunday. My roommate and I moved everything out of our place last Sunday. We both share the same philosophy that we want to pack and move in a very short amount of time. Neither of us enjoy living out a boxes for weeks before a move. So we started packing that Saturday morning. All of our worldly belongings went into boxes. By Sunday morning we were almost ready to go. We just had the kitchen to pack and we could start moving. A couple hours later we were all packed and ready to start moving stuff. The only problem is that we couldn't move into our new place until yesterday. So we had to find places to stash our stuff. All of our furniture and boxes of stuff went to a buddy's house about 5 minutes away from the place. So three quick trips with the ten foot U-Haul and that piece was done. But the problem is that is was now already 5pm. It seemed to have taken us a little longer then we had originally planned.

So next to go were truckloads of smaller and more expensive stuff, like the TV, computers, sports memorabilia, golf clubs, and electronics. So we started packing all this stuff into the truck and moving it to the friends apartment that we were staying at for the week. The only issue that we had with this was that by the time that we got everything together and packed into the truck, it was 2:00 a.m. We have a lot of stuff and since this was the stuff that was more valuable, we had to take better care in transporting it. So we headed off in the truck to her place to unload. We pulled down the alley and parked to see the 3 flights of back and forth stairs that we were going to have to carry everything up. So we went to work and buckled down to get this over with. It took about an hour and a half and we were unloaded. Time to go to bed right? We were far from it. Please remember that this is a Sunday night and we both have to work on Monday morning. Our friend had been helping us all day and was pretty much out of gas at that point. So she stayed as we took off back to our place.

We quickly dropped off the truck and got back to the place which was looking like shit. There was random stuff everywhere. We sat and had a smoke to calm down and then got to it again. Everything that was going had to be put in one of two cars. My roommate just got a new car and hasn't donated his old one yet. So all the odds and ends started flying out of the apartment. Curtains, door mat, fixtures, etc. Everything had to go. So we loaded everything up and the whole place was clear. Now it was time to clean, and now it was 5:30 a.m. Our old management company was most likely the worst management company in the city. I will once again remind everyone to not rent an apartment from Kass Management. They are horrible. So we vacuumed, scrubbed and wiped down everything. The cars were packed to the brim and the place was finally empty. But the sun was up. By the time that we were ready to walk out of the place it was 7:30 a.m.

A quick drive back to our friends apartment, relax for 5 minutes, start showering and getting ready for work. I am supposed to be at work at 8:30 in the morning. I finally pulled up at about 9:45 in front of the building. I was exhausted. We had worked for 24 hours straight moving out. I could hardly keep my eyes open. Even though we had been drinking large quantities of coffee and energy drinks all night to keep us going. But it was all gone. Now I had to work a full day. I didn't think I was going to be able to make it. But I think I caught my 36th wind when I nodded off in the car for 30 seconds on the way over. I made it through the day. I worked a full day and was looking to passing out. But my body still wanted to push me. So I was too tired to sleep. I laid down but I would just lay there. Nothing. Finally I fell asleep and got about 4 hours to get me ready for my next day of work.

The move into the new place was a lot more uneventful and took a lot less time. So there isn't a lot that I can mention. But in my next post, from my new apartment, I will recall all of the glorious events that happened at my old apartment which include, police raids, prostitutes, exploding hot water heaters, lying landlords, lots of Jack Daniels and Canadian Club, parties, pre-drinking and beer pong sessions, and 9 days through the longest and coldest stretch of weather in Chicago in the last 100 years, last winter, without gas which included heat, hot water and the stove.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Mens Room Etiquette

So this is something that I should have written about a long time ago. I hate the fact that I have been a ridiculous slacker and have not been updating this thing like I should be. I started thinking about writing this post about two years ago before this blog was even born. The bathroom situations at the radio stations were bad, but not as bad as they have turned out here in Chicago. So please read and enjoy, these are the Do's and Do Not's of Men's Room Etiquette.

Do: Walk into the men's room in a casual fashion and walk to the receptacle of your choice.
Do Not: Burst into the men's room and have your zipper down when you are still more then ten feet from anywhere from that previously mentioned receptacle.

Do: Stand at the urinal and make sure that your aim is accurate.
Do Not: Stand three feet back from the urinal and see the how far you can arch it.

Do: Maintain a stance that promotes privacy for both you and other bathroom dwellers.
Do Not: Stand at the urinal with your pants undone and hovering around mid-thigh. you are no longer in grade school.

Do: Wash Your Hands!
Do Not: Use the bathroom and then just walk out. You are the reason I have to use a paper towel to open the door.

Do: Please Wash Your Hands!
Do Not: Pretend to wash your hands. It takes just as long to pretend to wash your hands as it does to actually wash them.

Do: Feel free to greet someone on the way in or out of the men's room.
Do Not: Stand and the urinal next to me and insist on looking at me and trying to have a conversation with me.

Do: Throw your paper towel in the trash.
Do Not: Throw the paper towel on the floor or in the urinal. We have had major leakage from paper towel jams and if they are on the floor they have been tracked all the way down the hallway.

Do: Retire to the bathroom to let out some exhaust or make a quick phone call.
Do Not: Lean against the wall near me while I am handling my business and talking about the what you and your douche bag friends did last night.

Do: Feel comfortable in the bathroom.
Do Not: Make noises while talking care of your business that make me feel very uncomfortable in the bathroom.

Do: Use the urinal of your choice.
Do Not: Use the buffer urinal if there are three and the end ones are being used. Go into the stall or just wait it out. The buffer is a necessity.

These are all of the rules that I have seen broken already this morning in the office. Will these things ever change?

If you have any good etiquette tips, feel free to leave them in the comments section.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Southside Shenanigans

So as many Chicago residents know, the Southside Irish Parade takes place a week before the downtown St Patricks Day festivities. The Southside Parade is pretty much just another reason to get drunk on a Sunday. The problem with the parade is that it runs down Western and there is no good way to get there other then the METRA, which really isn't that convenient anyways. So this was our journey to the Southside.

I was up and in the shower that Sunday morning at 5:45 am. By 6:15 I was dressed, had a beer in my hand and had already had my first smoke of the day. Some more beers and 4 Irish Car Bombs later, we were heading out the door to make it to the METRA so we could get down to the southside. Heading down the sidewalk, we were pretty prepared for the day. There were four of us and we were armed with 5 flasks. The different booze of choice were Jose, Jamison, Captain Morgan Private Reserve, two filled with Jack Daniels. Not to mention a camelback filled with Irish coffee. We finally caught a cab after about 20 minutes and headed to the train station. Wouldn't you know our luck. We got to the train station about 3 minutes after the train had left and there wouldn't be another one for an hour. So we decided to cut our loses and head to the red line. But first a bathroom stop. Of course, being a man, I am waiting for the ladies to come out of the restroom so we can get going. Suddenly, the two of them burst out carrying a long gift bag and heading for the door. Little did I know that they had just found a $40 bottle of champagne in the bathroom and had decided that it would be best to come with us.

So on our red line trip, we passed the flasks and starting building up our already apparent buzzes. A quick cab ride and we are there, Southside Parade. But we had a few hours to kill so we walked around and drained the camelback. Then someone got the bright idea to pour the champagne into the camelback. But the problem is that the tube that you drink out of was now mixed with Irish coffee and champagne, someone was going to have the clear it. So being the team player that I am, I volunteered. This was not one of my greatest decisions. It was the weirdest taste I have ever experienced. I could taste baileys, whiskey, coffee, champagne and cigarette smoke. It was very interesting and I don't think I will be doing that again any time soon.

We waited in line for the bar for about an hour or so which was pretty uneventful. It was pretty much standing around smoking and drinking. But it was fun to watch the cops harassing everyone. Once we got into the bar is was pretty much par for the course. The place was packed. But we took over the music and played Avenged Sevenfold, Atreyu, Bullet for my Valentine and Dropkick Murphys. It was a good time, but it just wasn't over the top.

We left the bar and decided to check out some other places. But a friend of mine and I had to use the restroom a.k.a. the horrid porta johns around the parade route. So we waited in line for about a half hour, but to be honest it was probably the best part of the day. We stood there with complete strangers having a great time. Talking about setting pace times and reasoning with them that it was not a good idea for me to piss in the alley next to the porta potty and get my name on the sex offenders list for indecent exposure. We took pictures with them and pretty much got everyone else around us excited to go to the bathroom. It was a good time.

But When we met back up with our friends, we realized one of them was a little too drunk so we were going to head home. We walked over the the METRA stop and realized that the next train wasn't coming for another hour and a half. So we decided to catch a cab to the red line just like before and head home. So we started walking. Little did we know that there are no cabs on the southside. So we ended up walking about 3 and a half miles to the red line through a lot of neighborhoods that reminded me of Detroit. I don't mean that as an insult it is just the truth. After that nice long stroll, we finally got the train.

Once on the train, our very very drunk friend let us know that she was going to the "dark side", which means that she is going to pass out and pretty much be belligerent. What would you do in this situation? We decided to start giving her shots of tequila. And it worked, she was back with us in no time. So we started joking about getting her a Jose Cuervo IV so that she would always be a good little drunk. A guy sitting by us loved the idea and started chiming in comments about the tequila IV. We always seem to make friends where ever we go.

So after a long train ride and a short bus ride, I was sitting in my leather recliner ready to pass out. It was only 4:30 in the afternoon surprisingly. But it was a great nap. I slept in that ultra comfortable chair until 10 pm and then went and passed out in my bed until morning. Apparently it had been a long day.

But I fell asleep thinking of walking down the street talking with my fellow wanderers when we decided that we are going to take next year off. Two years in a row is enough for now.